Monday, October 14, 2013

Letting go...

I slept at around 6 PM and woke up at 12 midnight. Time check - 5:06 AM. 

I can't sleep yet.. 
or maybe..
I just don't wanna sleep yet.

Is there ever a point in your life when you feel overly emotional and sensitive about all things? including the littlest things? 

I'd like to believe I'm still normal.. so I hope I am not the only girl who goes through this phase. 

I just wish men start to realize that women have hormones they don't have. So we get emotional and sensitive about almost all things. When we do, all it takes is a hug or a kiss to take the frown away. An argument is the last thing we need. :/

Anyway, I came across these quotes. 


Happiness is a choice. People come and go and everything happens for a reason. It's your choice if you want to dwell over the bad vibes. Its also a choice to smile and just move on. :) It's better to be happy.. just count all the blessings in your life and don't focus on the negative energies. :)

Life is too short to be anything but happy. So let's all create our own brand of happiness and live with it. :)

So to end this post, I also wanna share this note: 


True!! :)

Good Morning! :)

Sunday, October 13, 2013

How to Apply for Solo Parent ID?

Being a solo parent, it would really help me big time if I secure a Solo Parent ID. This is being recognized in work places and my company is no exception to this. So even if I work in a call center, speaking with American consumers, our company is still mandated by law to let solo parents avail of this benefit. This would mean 7 additional leaves in one calendar year. 

I plan on visiting our municipal hall this week. So, since I am also searching on how to avail it, I'd like to share them with you too. :)

This is what I got from the website. Its comprehensive and it gives all information you may need. 


Who is considered as a “solo parent”?
A “solo parent” (pursuant to Republic Act No. 8972, also known as the “Solo Parents’ Welfare Act of 2000″) is any individual who falls under any of the following categories:
(1) A woman who gives birth as a result of rape and other crimes against chastity even without a final conviction of the offender: Provided, That the mother keeps and raises the child;
(2) Parent left solo or alone with the responsibility of parenthood due to death of spouse;
(3) Parent left solo or alone with the responsibility of parenthood while the spouse is detained or is serving sentence for a criminal conviction for at least one (1) year;
(4) Parent left solo or alone with the responsibility of parenthood due to physical and/or mental incapacity of spouse as certified by a public medical practitioner;
(5) Parent left solo or alone with the responsibility of parenthood due to legal separation or de facto separation from spouse for at least one (1) year, as long as he/she is entrusted with the custody of the children;
(6) Parent left solo or alone with the responsibility of parenthood due to declaration of nullity or annulment of marriage as decreed by a court or by a church as long as he/she is entrusted with the custody of the children;
(7) Parent left solo or alone with the responsibility of parenthood due to abandonment of spouse for at least one (1) year;
(8) Unmarried mother/father who has preferred to keep and rear her/his child/children instead of having others care for them or give them up to a welfare institution;
(9) Any other person who solely provides parental care and support to a child or children;
(10) Any family member who assumes the responsibility of head of family as a result of the death, abandonment, disappearance or prolonged absence of the parents or solo parent.
A change in the status or circumstance of the parent claiming benefits under Republic Act No. 8972, such that he/she is no longer left alone with the responsibility of parenthood, shall terminate his/her eligibility for these benefits.
Who are considered as “children”?
“Children” refer to those living with and dependent upon the solo parent for support who are unmarried, unemployed and not more than eighteen (18) years of age, or even over eighteen (18) years but are incapable of self-support because of mental and/or physical defect/disability.
What is “parental responsibility”?
With respect to minor children, it refers to the rights and duties of the parents as defined in Article 220 of Executive Order No. 209 (also known as the “Family Code of the Philippines“). Article 220 provides that the parents and those exercising parental authority shall have, with the respect to their unemancipated children on wards, the following rights and duties:
(1) To keep them in their company, to support, educate and instruct them by right precept and good example, and to provide for their upbringing in keeping with their means;
(2) To give them love and affection, advice and counsel, companionship and understanding;
(3) To provide them with moral and spiritual guidance, inculcate in them honesty, integrity, self-discipline, self-reliance, industry and thrift, stimulate their interest in civic affairs, and inspire in them compliance with the duties of citizenship;
(4) To furnish them with good and wholesome educational materials, supervise their activities, recreation and association with others, protect them from bad company, and prevent them from acquiring habits detrimental to their health, studies and morals;
(5) To represent them in all matters affecting their interests;
(6) To demand from them respect and obedience;
(7) To impose discipline on them as may be required under the circumstances; and
(8) To perform such other duties as are imposed by law upon parents and guardians.
What are the employment-related benefits available to ALL “solo parents”?
Flexible work schedule. This refers to the right of a solo parent employee to vary his/her arrival and departure time without affecting the core work hours as defined by the employer. The employer shall provide for a flexible working schedule for solo parents, as long as it shall not affect individual and company productivity. In case of certain meritorious grounds, the employer may request exemption from DOLE.
No work discrimination. Employer are prohibited from discriminating against any solo parent employee with respect to terms and conditions of employment on account of his/her status.
Parental leave. “Parental leave” means leave benefits granted to a solo parent to enable him/her to perform parental duties and responsibilities where physical presence is required. In addition to leave privileges under existing laws, parental leave of not more than seven (7) working days every year shall be granted to any solo parent employee who has rendered service of at least one (1) year.
What other benefits are available to “solo parents”?
Subject to income thresholds (“poverty threshold”) set by the National Economic and Development Authority (NEDA) and subject to the assessment of the DSWD worker in the area, “solo parents” shall be entitled to the following:
Educational benefits, including scholarship programs for qualified solo parents and their children in institutions of basic, tertiary and technical/skills education, and nonformal education programs appropriate for solo parents and their children.
Housing benefits, including allocation in government low-cost housing projects, with liberal terms of payment.
Medical assistance, with comprehensive health care programs for solo parents and their children to be implemented by the DOH through their retained hospitals and medical centers and the local government units (LGUs) through their provincial/district/city/municipal hospitals and rural health units (RHUs).

How to apply for a Solo Parent ID

1. The solo parent-applicants shall bring the ff.:
    · Barangay certification certifying Solo Parent’s residency in the barangay for the last six months
    · Affidavit of circumstance stating the reason for becoming a solo parent (Note: Some LGUs may require only basic documents hence it is advisable to call the C/MSWDO first to check the required documents).
    · Certificates e.g., birth certificates of children, death certificate of spouse and other appropriate documentary support
    · Income tax return or any document that will establish the income level of the solo parent
    2. The social worker receives and ensures that all documents are complete and registers the applications with an appropriate case number in the log-book Registry of Solo Parents.
      3. 3. The SP ID shall bear the following information:
      · ID number, name, date of birth, sex, address and income
      · Income Classification A and B e.g., A for above poverty line and B below poverty line
      · Names of the family members, their dates of birth and relationship with the bearer
      · For revalidation purposes, the ID shall indicate specific years and space for signatures/initials of the validating officer
      · Size of the SP ID should not be more than 2 x 3.5 inches.
      4. 4. The SP IDs shall be issued 30 days after filing of applications.
      5 5. The SP ID card is valid for one year and renewable every year, subject to reassessment and re-evaluation by the social worker. In some instances, some LGUs indicate a three (3) year period, which will be signed/initialled by the social worker when revalidated.
      6. 6. The C/MSWDO shall be responsible in the printing of the SP IDs. Proper control on the issuance of such shall be undertaken by C/MSWDO. If SP IDs are not immediately available for issuance after intake/assessment interview, the social worker shall issue a certificate of eligibility.
      7. 7. SP IDs shall be surrendered to the C/MSWDO when the solo parents transfer residence in another area. As transferees from another barangay, the solo parents shall secure a certification from the new barangay attesting whether or not they have already availed of SP services.
      8. 8. The availment of the seven days parental leave, in addition to the regular leave privileges provided by government agencies and private corporations is the right of every qualified solo parent. Solo parents may directly apply for parental leave with their employers, provided a valid SP ID is presented.
      For more information, please visit your Municipal Social Welfare and Development Office in your locality. Solo parents may also post their queries on DSWD DOS or email at fo2@dswd.gov.ph or call (078) 846-7043.
      You can find all this information in this website.

      Baguio City - Cheap Accommodation.


      This is one of the few series I'll be doing about our Baguio trip last May. We spent 5 days there and its one of the best vacations we've ever had. The nicest thing about it was we were with Nyx. It was Nyx's first time to see Baguio and I wanted him to see all the beautiful places and people of Baguio. One thing that stopped us from doing that was the weather. It was rainy then.. But I noticed the trend.. It rained during afternoons only... So we spent time touring the city before lunch. We leave the house as early as 6 AM and get back home when it starts to rain. Anyway, this was anticipated. Since weather in Baguio is generally rainy. I should know, since I spent a year there when I was still on my freshman year in college. :)

      I haven't tried staying at a hotel there whenever we visit there for vacation. Hotel accommodations range from Php 1000 - 4000 per night. I don't have that money to spend on travel expenses plus I enjoy my Baguio trips as much as hotel-lodgers do. So I just got used to staying in transients. I stay along Engineer's hill drive (either lower or upper) since it's just located at the back of Victory Liner terminal. Aside from it's affordable rates, it's also very accessible to some local tourist spots like Burn ham Park, Session Road and SM Baguio. 

      Its the road just behind my 2 boys. :)


      Super lapit diba? It's walking distance so it saves a lot on transportation expenses. :)

      We stayed in the same transient Erick and I usually stays. Its very cheap @ Php 300 per night. Nyx's accommodation was of course free of charge. I highly recommend this to people who are not too "maarte" when it comes to lodging. All we needed was a television, clean rest room and clean room. And this transient house met our criteria.  Here's how it looked like: 

      This was the room, with one cabinet.

      Our kitchen area.

      Restroom :) not so nice pero atleast its clean. :)
      Very spacious living room area. (TV and sala set not shown in this photo, on far right corner)

      Dining area. :)

      Family picture taken in the living room. :)
      Nyx staring at the window. :)
      It was very homey. It felt like we were just home. Since we stayed there for 5 days, we had to save up on food so I cooked our meal most of the time. Just across the street, there were "talipapas", sari sari stores and "ihawans" where we can get practically everything we needed. It was really convenient for us. The only difficult part was we were on the 4th floor, rooftop. We chose to occupy this area since its most peaceful here plus we didn't have to share it with other occupants. :) This place was really convenient for us. :)

      I know some may not like the place, but for those travelling in groups and would wish to save money, you may try out the place. You can go to Baguio for a little over Php 3000 including travel expenses. :)

      If you want to know more about the place, just ask me. :)

      Related post: Baguio - on the road.



      Summer Class at Ruther E. Esconde School of Multiple Intelligences Inc.

      Nyx attended his summer class at REESMI. My decision to send him in this school was because his Ninang teaches there. Since its his first time to attend schooling, I opted for this school. Its also a good practice to research on the method of teaching a school applies so we would know how our child would fair. According to what I have read, multiple intelligence method does not only focus on academics. It also drives a child to tap on his talents in their road to self-discovery. You can read more about it here.

      Since its Nyx's first time to attend school, I wanted him to develop his socialization skills first. Academics will soon follow. I wanted him to develop confidence in interacting with kids of his age and I wanted him to have a feel of how school is like. You may read about my post about his First day in Summer class here.

      I think this is one of the best decisions I have made in life. Nyx showed a lot of improvement socially. He also perceived schooling positively. He never cried when he attended this summer class. The teachers were very nice and accommodating. Everything was systematic. I paid Php 5000 for this summer class and it was so worth it!

      Towards the end of the summer class, the teachers and the students started preparing for a dance and song numbers to be presented in front of the parents. This was held at SM Bacoor, with all the lights and sounds. The students and their talents were shown in the lime light. I was a very proud parent. 

      This was how the stage looked like:



      And this is my adorable kid on stage.



      I wanna share with you some pictures of my son while he was dancing in the tune of Fireworks, Little Sunny Water, Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, Happiness, Hokey Pokey and Gwiyomi Song. :) He participated so well compared with the other kids. He enjoyed being on stage. He was enjoying the performance as we applauded and cheered them up. Whenever we go to SM Bacoor, he would always ask me when he'd dance again on that stage. I must be raising a future star. :) 

      Nyx on red checkered polo shirt, board shorts, yellow shades and printed hat. 
      Theme: Summer attire










      I wish I can upload the videos here. But I don't know how yet. As soon as I figured out how, I will definitely share them here so Nyx can watch himself dance like he did here in the future! :)

      I strongly recommend this school. This school year, due to financial constraints, despite the greatness of the school, we tried out a cheaper school, Erica Learning School, since it's just near our place. It utilizes traditional method of teaching. Nyx was culture-shocked in a way. He was asking me when he'll sing and dance again his favorite songs at REESMI. He kept telling me he wanted to go back to his summer class school. I had to explain he needs to finish one complete school year at Erica Learning Center. Another reason why I chose ELC over REESMI was because it is only a 5-minute walk to our house, whereas, REESMI is 2 rides away from our place. I have to really think hard on where Nyx will study next school year. I also need to save hard, I guess. :)

      I will write more about Erica Learning Center on a separate post. :)

      Thumbs up to Ruther E. Esconde School of Multiple Intelligences Inc.!



      Ruther E.  Esconde School of Multiple Intelligences Inc. 
      #354 Gen. Tirona Hi-way
      You may like their Facebook page here. :)




      First Yakimix Experience! :)

      Erick and I are not usually fond of buffets. We are not usually in to trying new foods. But I guess its about time that we try something different. Last week, we were invited to hold our team mini reunion at Yakimix, Alabang Town Center. It has a unique variety of Japanese cuisines which offers buffet and fine dining at a relatively affordable price. You may also check out their menu here

      Lunch buffet starts at 11 AM and ends at 3 PM. We were there ahead of time for reservation. Since its usually crowded, its best if you come in before 11 AM. We got there around 10 AM and I was shocked when I saw the long queue. 





      We waited for our name to be called and from then on, everything went on smoothly. Customer service was great and the ambiance looked so posh and light. It just so happened that the burner where we were seated was defective so we have to call the crew each time we needed to grill. It was a hassle in a way, but since the crews looked so accommodating, we didn't mind. :)



      This was how the buffet looked like:




      There were like 4 rows of cuisines ranging from meats, Japanese foods, dessert, some known Filipino foods like Crispy Pata, chopsuey, veggies, sea foods and the like. Cake was from Red Ribbon and Ice cream was from Nestle. I didn't enjoy the main courses as much as my friends did, but I super made sure I'd take in as much sweets as I could. It was like being in a food paradise. For someone who loves Japanese food, it was superb. I can tell by the looks of my friend's faces. :) Here's how their plates looked like: 






      I enjoyed the grilling part. I tried all sorts of meat available. :)






      And to here's the part I enjoyed the most. 














      Yes, I tried all of it! :)

      This was a happy place for me. I guess you can bring me anywhere with lots of sweets and I'd approve it. I am not really a good food critic since I don't eat all types of food. I am picky and choosy in a way. :)

      We paid for Php 735 each, with unlimited drinks. We were offered their privilege card for Php 600 + and was given 10% discount since we charged it on my friend's credit card. They are offering 15% discount if you pay for cash. :) I am not sure of their price ranges but you can check it out here.

      By the way, we initially placed a reservation for 12 persons. So we reserved 3 tables. 3 of our friends did not arrive as planned so we ended up as 9 persons.I was so worried because they billed us good for 12 persons. I thought we would need to argue with the manager but was surprised because they just reprinted the receipt with our desired head count. I was amazed and I honestly didn't expect that. Great customer service indeed! :)

      Overall, it was a happy experience. I would definitely recommend this place. And I will maybe try other buffets more often. Here's a look of our happy faces:



      It was super fun! Lots of chikahan with amazing food experience! :)


      Yakimix, Alabang Town Center 

      Opening Hours: 11 AM- 3 PM Lunch Buffet (Mon-Sun)6 PM - 11 PM Dinner Buffet (Mon- Thur)530 PM - 11 PM Dinner Buffet (Fri - Sun)

      Sun-date with Nyx!

      Today, we went to see the doctor. Its so upsetting how merchants set up a website only to mislead people. You go to their websites with hopes of getting only accurate information about their products and services. As I have narrated in my last post, I caught my son's eye infection.. So, I have to secure a medical certificate.. Just for the heck of it, I opted to just have the check up done in Well Point Clinic @ Sm Bacoor. I tried calling their number but to no avail, I got no response. So I checked out their website to check the doctors' schedule. Eye doctor was supposed to be available @ 4 PM. It was clearly stated here. So Nyx and I went there only to find out that no eye specialist is available during Sundays. That's not what the website said. I held on to my patience.. I didn't want to start a scene with my son.. So I just decided to wait until tomorrow for Nyx's check up @ Perpetual hospital. We went to Jollibee (as usual, since its Nyx's ultimate favorite!) , and since I badly need medical certificate, I decided to walk back to the clinic and check if we can just consult with a family physician. We were accommodated and I got what I needed for Php 100. It just feels really bad that I wasn't able to see an eye specialist. I still need to go back for check-up tomorrow perhaps.. 

      Doctor said he can go to school na tomorrow. But I'm worried that he may still spread the infection. So maybe, I'll let him rest some more tomorrow.  Here's how he looked like:


      Notice the left eye.. its not too well yet.. :( But I'm glad his better.

      We were supposed to see a movie but Oggy is not showing anymore at SM Bacoor, so we opted to just eat @Jollibee. I bought all his favorite meal in Jollibee. I made sure he'll enjoy our date. :)



      We must do this more often. Mother-son date. I super enjoyed it! :)




      Nyx and I don't usually spend quality time together ( I mean, just the two of us! coz we go out a lot! ) .. Often, we go out with Erick as a family. It feels great to be given a chance to spend this time with my son. I guess, it allows me to know him more since I am focused on him. No distractions. He shares stories I don't usually hear when we go out in three's. 

      This infection is somehow, a blessing in disguise. I feel closer to my son and I feel great as a mom. 

      Saturday, October 12, 2013

      Disney Magic Show and Sore eyes..


      Nyx has many favorites. But his very very first favorite was Mickey Mouse and the rest of the gang. He would ran to the television each time he heard Disney Jr's "Mickey Mouse show" air when he was as young as a year old . Sometimes, I feel like he was just over acting. He even learned the dance steps as time progressed.

      So...

      When I saw my high school classmate posted about discounted tickets to the "Disney Magic Show".. I had no doubt in my mind that I wanted Nyx to see this show. I convinced Erick despite the fact that we had work before and on the day of the show. It was really sort of a sacrifice on our part. So we met up with my high school classmate the day before the show. My office mate and her son tagged along with us. It was really a fun idea. However, it challenged me big time when Nyx had sore eyes the day before. He apparently caught this infection from Erick’s family house when we visited in Batangas 2 weeks ago. I didn’t realize he would still be infected after 2 weeks… My mom contradicted the idea of pushing through with the show, but I was persistent. I took the risk because Nyx was super excited and I knew it would break his heart if we won’t push through with the plan.

      The tickets we got were discounted. It was originally priced at Php 1170, Upper Box Center, but we got it for Php 550 only. I really couldn't let the opportunity pass. :)

      True enough, despite his condition, he was super happy. He was talking about it the entire time.. I just had him wear sun glasses the entire time.. So off we went to the show! :)




      This was how he looked like. I didnt want the kids to stay away from him so he had to really wear the sunglasses. I know I shouldnt have allowed him to see the show pero the mother in me wanted to see him happy kaya I had to..


      This was our tiis-ganda shot.. It was super hot then @ 2pm. 



      The show started at 3 PM sharp. We let ourselves in the venue around 2 PM. We had to surrender our digital camera because cameras are not allowed inside. Oh well.. they allowed camera phones inside the venue so I don't really see the logic behind it. Anyway, these were taken before the show started. :)


      Still looked so adorable! 
      Another mandatory shot with mommy. :)
      With his Tatay Erick. :)
      The venue
      Obligatory shot with Tatay Erick!
       


      We were seated in Upper Box Center. Nyx was still able to enjoy the show despite his proximity to the stage. Seeing him smile the way he did brought me a different kind of happiness. :) I just hope we didnt infect anyone with his sore eyes.



      This was how his eyes looked like. I removed the sunglasses when the show started.





      He was laid back and he was enjoying the show. I didn't think the show was good.. but then on second thought, I realized it was meant for kids... so I shouldn't be criticizing the show because the kids looked like they were enjoying it naman. :)



      Cham , my friend, and his son came in just in time for the show. They arrived after 3 PM but they didn't really miss anything. I had their tickets with me so Erick had to meet them over at the entrance for the tickets. Her son looked so bored to death.. maybe because he's already 6 years old and he now has different interests compared with my 3-year old son. :)

      Here are our shots after the show. :)






      Overall, Nyx liked it. So no regrets!




      I will do anything for you, son!I just hope tomorrow you'll be ok na..
      Today is his 9th day with sore eyes...
      I had him checked by 2 eye doctors and one pediatrician na..
      He was prescribed 3 different sets of medicines na..
      This last one has steroids and I think its working well with him..
      The doctor said there was formation of membrane in his upper eyelid which prolongs the infection..
      So we had the doctor removed it yesterday in his clinic..
      It was such a pain..
      While doing the procedure, I was crying.. sobbing.. crying..
      I couldnt help it..
      Last night, I caught the infection too..
      Both my eyes are sore now..
      In a way, Im ok with it..
      It only means I can take care of Nyx round the clock now..
      Please help me pray for his recovery..
      Thank you everyone!


      Good Night! :)